One of my fondest memories of Abigail and Luke’s wedding was walking with the couple back to their reception at the Deane House after taking a few photos outside during the night, and they asked me, “what was the coldest wedding you’ve ever photographed?”. I really had to think about it, but after a few moments, I answered, “well, this one” and they laughed. While I have done wedding photos in even colder temperatures, Abigail and Luke braved the cold to do the entire ceremony outdoors, including hours of photos outside beforehand. They are seriously the bravest bride and groom ever!
Abigail and Luke’s wedding day was super chill (literally and metaphorically) with a wonderful intimate ceremony and reception. Their family was incredibly sweet and kind, with Abigail’s dad telling me I was part of the family as I was headed out the door to make my leave (awww!!). Abigail and Luke’s outfits were simply AMAZING, with Abigail reminiscing the fact that she felt like a witch with her awesome high collar jacket and her shoes! Most of all, I loved how the two of them took the wedding day, and the entire planning process, at such a non-pressure pace that really allowed them to enjoy everything leading up to the day.
Thank you, Abigail and Luke, for including me in your amazing wedding experience! You two are incredible people!
Describe your planning process!
Abigail: The very first thing we did to start the planning process was to list our priorities, which were that we wanted an excellent photographer, really delicious food, and to feel like ourselves, but fancier! We also agreed that we wanted to have a very small and intimate wedding, and that we wanted to have the ceremony outside. Neither of us were particularly interested in the details of a wedding, so it was also important to find a venue that did not require too much decorating- when we saw the Library Room at the Deane House, we knew this was the spot! In terms of style, the Library Room was a big inspiration for the small amount of decor that we did bring in. While we did include books as decor and favors, we also paid homage to the historical aspect of the space by framing wedding photos from both sides of our family, and including small vintage details, such as a magnifying glass necklace that belonged to my grandmother, a crystal dish that was my great grandmother’s, and a vintage sailboat pin to go with Luke’s boutonniere. We chose our outfits bit by bit and made sure that each piece reflected who we were- in the end, it all felt like “us.”
What was your most favorite or memorable part of your day?
Luke: It was really cold (-12ish) but when Abigail started talking during the ceremony I didn’t feel it anymore. I had the words and the tears to focus on!
Abigail: To be honest, aside from getting married, my favorite part of the whole day was enjoying the delicious meal we had selected at the Deane House. We had chosen the menu about a month before the wedding so had been looking forward to it, and we were not disappointed! Everyone had been so easy to work with and we were able to make choices that fit us and our guests, including a fabulous cocktail list with a Caesar for Luke and an amaretto sour for me. It really was the best!
What is your greatest advice to those planning their wedding day?
Luke and Abigail: We have three pieces of advice for people planning their wedding:
1. Do it your way! Wear what you want to wear, don’t stick to traditions you don’t believe in, and make it your own. Throw convention out the window or be the ultimate traditionalist- whatever you decide, make sure it’s what you want to do and not something you think you’re “supposed” to do because you’re getting married.
2. Stay organized. We kept everything (notes, business cards, lists, receipts, etc) in a single binder, and had a to do list that went month-by-month on the front so that we could see our progress. Since we had a shorter engagement at only 7 months, this was especially helpful to stay on track!
3. Treat yourself! A month before the wedding we were trying to figure out transportation for ourselves, and decided to hire a town car. The company suggested a limo instead, and, even though this felt like overkill, we went for it- and it was awesome! We felt so special and it added that little bit of tradition that said “wedding day.” Plus, that dress was not gonna fit in an Uber!
Any special details about your personal experience that you want to share?
Abigail: I didn’t want an engagement ring, so my wedding ring served as both an engagement ring and wedding band. I had been following Ivy Nixon on Instagram for a year or so, and when she posted the Halley ring (inspired by Halley’s Comet), I fell in love. I was a bit nervous about ordering such an important piece of jewelry over the internet, but once it arrived it was clear that this ring was meant to be mine! It is exactly the right balance of sparkle and quirk for me, and I am so happy with it! And one more thing. As a plus-sized bride, I sometimes struggled with the pressure to fit into the mold of what I thought a bride was “supposed” to be. However, with supportive people such as Luke, my family, Anna, and all of the amazing vendors that were so kind and helpful throughout this process, it became easier to set these ideas aside and just be me. I felt beautiful, loved, and cared for on our wedding day, and I think it shows through Anna’s beautiful photographs. So be you, have fun, and enjoy!
Ceremony venue: Rotary Park // Reception venue: Deane House // Officiant/Marriage Commissioner: Jane Paterson // Abigail’s dress: Durand Bridal // Abigail’s jacket: Anthropologie // Abigail’s shoes: Rockport // Luke’s suit, tie, belt: Espy // Luke’s pin: want2need1 // Transportation: AMPM Limo // Hair stylist: Julia Scoville // Makeup artist: Trena Laine // Flowers: Avenida Flowers // Bride’s ring designer: Charlotte Dey with Ivy Nixon // Groom’s ring: Eve’s Addiction